should one send the Ex Wife a Christmas card?

Should one send the Ex Wife a Christmas card?

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edward w pritchard

After a life time of reading several thousand monumental books on many subjects and seventeen years of formal education I have been unable to find a scholarly treatise to the question of should one send their Ex wife a Christmas Card.

Consulting the internet on the computer with the question of to send or not send the Ex Wife a Christmas card there is no mention of the subject by two of the great systematizers of the causes of the Decline of civilizations Oswald Spengler or Arnold Toynbee.  Nor is the subject breached by thinker, writer and former playboy bunny Gloria Steinem. There are however four point four million references to the subject of sending Christmas cards later to one's ex by regular people on the internet with advice on both sides of the question depending on the vulgarities of the individual circumstances of the two previously involved.

Perhaps the Golden rule of the Bible should apply after formal research into the common Anglo- Saxon Law of Divorce and separation comes up empty on the subject. Especially if no mention of card sending is found during additional research into the double/double  negative ethics of the writings of Nietzsche, Heidegger or Sartre.

Can it be a purely linguistic paradox? Such as- should one [SEND] { irregular verb} a Christmas Card to the Ex wife- as according to the writings of L.Wittgenstein?

Or a utilitarian issue as in the thinking of J. S. Mill/ " greatest good for greatest number"; as example, go ahead and write a card but make sure your grand daughter  hears about it so as to teach her to write thank you letters rather than to merely text a few terse lines in response to gifts or money from Grand Fathers at Holidays and birthdays.

If one wakes at 4 AM with a conundrum in mind which cannot be solved using Western philosophy maybe one should look to distant China as in the Tao- "when in doubt take action" or to Confucianism- "forget about it".

In any event now the internet contains 4.4 million- and one- pieces of advice on the subject of should one send a Christmas card to their ex wife at Christmas.